Month: April 2014

Set Yourself Up!

Julianne on the 'merry-go-round' of being heavy

Julianne on the ‘merry-go-round’ of being heavy

Ladies….we have two choices:   We can set ourselves up to fail, or we can set ourselves up to SUCCEED!

I choose to do the later; what about you?  Do you even know what you are doing that sets yourself up?

As I was living through my own process of taking the weight off and trying to get into better shape, I realized after the journey, that I had actually set myself up in the past, to fail.   I dieted strenuously; with no consideration of what my body needed to have the energy to succeed.  I didn’t need to be a nutritionist, but I needed to know the basics to succeed.  I also drank way to much diet soda….almost addicted to it.  I also have used sugar substitutes for 40 years!  I now believe that sets up our taste buds to ‘want more’.  I kept unhealthy snacks in the house.  I ate until I wanted to burst…heck, I could out eat my own husband.  I took on exercises programs that were extreme, and I couldn’t last.  I looked for others approval….and that wasn’t going to last either!

As I look back on what made me successful, I realize several things.

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My very first thing I did right, was to make a ‘decision’ to do it right…and stay with it.  No more strenuous diets….straight forward counting calories WITH consideration as to what makes up those calories.  Keeping it at about 30% fat, 30% carbs, and 30% protein.   I actually leaned heavily on the proteins side and less on the carbs. One of my guidelines:  no carbs (0r very very few) after 4pm for me.  I also realized some fat is necessary and is the ‘glue’ to help the other nutrients stick to my digestive system and helped me process foods better.  I realize this is laymans terms…but it is what I understand and what works for me.  Yep, and I cut out the diet sodas…all together; 2 years ago. What a difference that made!  No more late night trips to the bathroom for sure!  I don’t crave sweets like I used to either!   Oh yeah and I started limiting the snacks I keep in the house.  I learned and appreciated the taste of food…(like chocolate)….not to gorge on food!  And I discovered the exercises that I enjoy, and the ones that I don’t….and I gave myself permission to do what I like to do.  And lastly, I decided to do this for me, not for others approval.  Because I want to do this….live this way….the rest of my life!  I don’t want to burn out!  I don’t want to obsess over it…I want to actually enjoy this life journey; to feel good, to have energy, to be highly productive and to stand in confidence!

When I first started working from home, my office desk was actually 5 feet from the refrigerator!   I worked right there in my kitchen for 4 years….and I still managed to have success!   See, it is putting things in place to help us succeed!  AND, discipling ourselves in the journey. I so had to discipline myself…set up parameters….and make decisions that set me up FOR SUCCESS!

This journey is yours….all yours.   Set Yourself Up to be successful and enjoy the entire process!  Set Yourself Up to Succeed!

Ladies: It’s Time To Live Life Well!

There was that one day that I took a really hard, long look in the mirror and decided that I had to change things.

1988

1988

I didn’t like the way I looked.  I didn’t like the way I acted.  I didn’t like that I had lost my quick wit, my sharpness; I simply just felt dull.
At that time I didn’t realize it was my body’s reaction to ‘carb overload’; being lethargic and actually being in denial.  As I realized that I had to do something drastic to get my old self back….something I had never done before.  It wasn’t going to take a diet, or a program, or a class, or a diet pill….it was going to take renewal, discipline, creativity, and a willingness to never get like this again.  Big changes were ahead.

I remember journaling and now as I go back and read the notes I had written, I have to smile.  For in the depth of despair, fear and uncertainty, I found peace in knowing I had a lot of control over this issue.  God was allowing me to see that.  I was assured that He had given me all the tools I needed to live life well.   All I had to do was just ‘do it’……with ‘no excuse’.

Experiencing cancer in 1999 was trying enough; but fighting obesity all my life was the scare that I needed to change.  Obesity was something that wasn’t necessary and was hindering me from reaching excellence.   My excess weight got in the way of my relationships, my career, my health and my service to God.  If you’d asked me before this ‘awakening’; I would have told you that God loves heavy people and that I was doing ‘just fine’ thankyouverymuch!  That was a lie to myself. Well yes, God does love me fat or skinny…but the lie?  I wasn’t ‘just fine’!

mom copyThe journey is a long story in itself, but the outcome from the goals I set, the promises I made and the truths I lived….well that is the proof that yes, we can re-invent ourselves, we can be successful in changing our lives and we can be fulfilled in a way that is beyond our comprehension when our weight is not in our way.

I learned that people don’t look at you when you are fat.  Not really.  We are not heard as well, and many times we are not respected or valued as highly as we could be.  This is wrong and it shouldn’t be like this….but unfortunately it is pretty much the norm.

Ladies….it isn’t about how you look as much as how you feel, how you perform, how you think about yourself, how you stand tall, how you serve others, how you excel, how you wear your clothes, what you spend, where you eat, how you think, what you believe and where you are going.  If you will make the decision today to do something about what you can, and let go of what you can’t change….you will be on the road to success.

I encourage you to find your future with exercise and diet that you CAN LIVE WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!

In the MAX gym in Vero Beach with husband/trainer Tom Talley

In the MAX gym in Vero Beach with husband/trainer Tom Talley

If you don’t enjoy it, you won’t do it.  Be creative.  Be definitive.  Be strong.  Remember you did not arrive at your current weight overnight, so this won’t be a quick process.  But it will be a fantastic process….you will get your mind back; it will be clearer, you will get your wit back, life will be more fun.  You will get your body back, clothes will fit better.  You will get your hair back, your complexion back, even your face will look different.  I’m not kidding.  God made our bodies to work perfectly, yet we have abused our bodies for years and whine that they don’t work well, they are falling apart, and breaking down.  Well if we would care for our bodies, put the right things in to fuel ourselves, and not abuse our bodies….we’d have a much better chance at living longer, healthier, happier and we’ll get a lot more respect on the way.

So remember: you DO have control.  You can change things.  No excuse.  None.

Meet Julianne, Ms. Senior Florida

Mrs. Senior Florida“To look at Julianne Talley, a statuesque 61-year-old beauty, one would never know she has conquered both obesity and cancer.

The Ms. Senior Florida contestant glided through the Vero Beach High School Performing Arts Center with the humility of someone who underestimates her beauty. Little did she know, she was about to be crowned Ms. Senior Florida 2014.”  Tia Brueggeman  of CNN

I never dreamed I’d do anything like this. In this video, I talk about my fears, reservations and challenges of being a first-time pageant girl at 61 (stepping WAY outside my box). I also share my goal as I represent Florida women over 60, my passion and dreams as I continue to strive to make a difference in my age of elegance!

Read the article on CNN.
Read the article in the Press Journal.

Learn more about Ms. Senior America & Ms. Senior Florida.

Ms. Senior Florida 2014

Mrs. Senior Florida“At 61, this first-time pageant girl never dreamed she’d do something like this. After someone suggested she run, she decided she needed to step out of her comfort zone, and hoped she could at least encourage the ladies in the pageant with her story of conquering obstacles including obesity and cancer. She also knew it would grow herself in the process – and she was right!

Julianne never even thought about winning. Winning for her was just showing up and following through this incredible task. She is now so excited to have the opportunity to encourage women her age across the state, and potentially nationally, to live outside their comfort zones, chase their dreams and be all they can be at every age.

Ms. Senior Florida 2014Julianne also won Best Talent, singing and playing Sentimental Journey on the piano. Julianne plays at local venues in her hometown, Vero Beach, Florida. Julianne was born in and raised in Tallahassee, Florida and moved to Vero Beach in 2006. She is now preparing to represent Florida at Ms Senior America in Atlantic City this October.”

What An Experience!

Why I did the Pageant: I decided to enter the 2014 after a lot of thought and prayer.  When I realized that it was an opportunity to reach my dream to touch women across the country to inspire them to take better care of themselves, and to set goals, dream dreams, and do what it takes to reach those goals.  

What I learned from this experience: I learned several things:  The power of the spoken word and how it can impact others positively and how important it is to be myself always; working to get the message across in the most positive way possible.  I also thought I was the only one stepping out of my comfort zone….and I was inspired by the many contestants who were also experiencing the same thing.  We faced our fears, took on new challenges and made lasting friendships.

What I hope to do as Ms. Senior Florida/Ms. Senior America: It has been my dream to reach women across the country to encourage them that we ‘ain’t dead yet’ (as seniors)!   We can still do what we are inspired to do…it just may take a little bit more planning and creativity!  We can do that zip line in Costa Rica, we can get that long awaited degree, we can lose the weight, we can develop our spiritual lives to have a  more intimate relationship with God, we can increase our physical strength, get off unnecessary medications, and totally re-invent ourselves if we so choose.  By dedicating ourselves to a healthier life-style, many of these things will fall into place.  Increased self-esteem, value, confidence and maturity are all a part of growth and I can’t wait to share with women how important this is, and how attainable this is!