Are You “Wallering In Your Slop?”

I have a theory: Choose to be miserable, and you will be. Choose to be happy and free, and you will be.
Your choice: You choose!

It is really pretty simple but we over complicate it with letting our anger, unforgiveness and hurts get in the way and we simply cannot get over things so we can move on. People that cling to the negative, wear it on their faces and in their body language!

I remember a time when Tom and I had gone through a very difficult, hurtful time in our lives where we felt unfairly attacked and we just could not believe people could think we were such ‘bad people’ when in fact we felt we had given so much to the ministry! We really ‘wallowed in our slop’ for months and just relived the hurt, asked questions over and over, and just could not let it go. One day our very dear friends 17 year old son just piped up and said, “you guys just need to get over it and move on….talking about it doesn’t do anything but bring you further down.” What words of wisdom from such a young man and it completely turned us around. It was a lesson in forgiveness for us and we realized probably for the first time in our lives the power of letting go and forgiving. Through that process, we became winners and we overcame the evil and God honored our obedience. He hasn’t stopped pouring out His favor on us. The more we let go of the past, and ask forgiveness and move forward in faith….the more He blesses us. Now I don’t just mean material blessings….those are nice, but that isn’t what it is all about.

God has continued to show us the importance of ‘letting go’ and ‘moving on’ in order to grow us. The favor is in the thousands of prayers He has heard and He has answered. The blessings are ones of peace, contentment, joy, hope, abundant life, leadership, opportunities, ministry, family, relationships….. and the list goes on and on!

When we get out of our own way…that is when we can see more clearly ahead and God can actually do something! It is also when we can begin focusing on others, caring about other people, listening to others, taking time out for others….that is when life changes!

I know a precious woman who has never let her husband forget he was unfaithful so many years ago. Even though he has renewed his vow to her and has spent years proving his love for her and been faithful….she cannot get over his betrayal. I’m not saying that is easy to do….betrayal is one of the very deepest hurts; but it IS FORGIVEABLE! This poor woman is actually dying from the inside out because of the anger she carries and that is eating away at her. I believe if she could release the anger, forgive the hurt and move forward…she would revive! Her health would re-new (yes! It is connected) and she would have a new life!
Sometimes we have to say it with our mouths first, and then our hearts will follow. Say it, believe it, and do it!

If you need to quit ‘wallering in your slop’…..do it! It very well could save your life!

It's your choice!

It’s your choice!

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Eat Clean: Live Clean

Cleaning out things!

Cleaning out things!

When I eat clean, I live clean.  Have you ever noticed that about yourself?   It certainly is true for me.

When I let things slide:  dishes, closet, bathroom, car….that is a sure sign that my eating is sliding too!   The cleaner I eat, the cleaner I live.  I guess discipline effects everything, doesn’t it!
When my closet is in order, it usually means the rest of me is in order.

When I am eating well, excercising effectively and faithfully, many other things seem to fall into place.  My bank account/check book is up to date.  My bills are paid early, my kitchen cabinets stay cleaner, my dishes are never in the sink, the laundry is caught up, my focus at work is more accurate, I seem to have more time, I return calls (instead of throwing out a text), I keep my calendar updated, I am on time to appointments, my mind is in order and  …..wow….the list goes on and on.   So the question is:  why don’t we do something about it when we notice we are sl!ding?  These are sure signs that we’re off, so what can we do to catch it before we wake up one morning and we have gained 20 pounds and our entire home is out of order?
Look around you.  Notice what isn’t getting done.Start making the extra effort to pick up, clean up, and sit up! Probably becuase you’ve quit really counting calories; open up your app and start today again…counting every bite. To kick start yourself, try cutting everything you eat in half.  Or, drink a protein shake only for the 1st day.
Clean out your closet.  This is a great mental exercise for me.  You’ll end up trying on clothes and ‘ut-oh’some may be tight.  You also might find a few things you forgot about that you love!
Put your shoulders back and stand tall.  Really!
Write down your goals.  For the month, for the year.  For 5 years.  This really is important; when you write it down it is imprinted into your mind and you will feel accountable to the outcome, even subconsciously.  The best reward is going back and reading them to realize you’ve met so many (if not all) of them!
Realize that every excuse you make is only a detrimet to you..and no one else.
‘Living’ is not always easy.  It takes discipline to experience life to the fullest.  Don’t we all want that?  We have the tools at our fingertips…just listen to your body, watch your actions and eat clean to live clean!

The Abundant Life

Do you ever wonder what the Abundant Life really is, and what (if anything) can we do to get it?

ahhhhh livingl life on the beach!

ahhhhh livingl life on the beach!

Well, first we need to understand what the Abundant Life is.   It is life abounding, fullness of joy and strength, of body and soul!   It is to have a super abundance of a thing.  Abundant Life signifies a contrast to feelings of lack, emptiness and dissatisfaction, and such feelings may motivate a person to seek for the meaning of life and change.

We like to complain that we don’t have it, but are we willing to do what it takes to get it?  Can we have the abundant life when our bodies or minds aren’t physically or emotionally prepared to receive it?  We can have it, but wouldn’t we want to have it at the highest level?  To be able to receive the very best?

I remember a scripture in the Bible from Matthew 28 that says for us to ‘go ye therefore and teach all nations…”   I notice two words in this scripture that jump out at me….GO and TEACH.  Go means to move physically….and that means we need to be in the best shape possible in order to have the stamina to endure the process of really going.   Teach requires us to be mentally sharp, to be fully prepared so that we can put feet on our passion for the message.    This means to me, that we need to discipline ourselves mentally and physically in order to keep up with our mission.   The bottom line is; we can’t reach our full potential unless we are in good condition.  Many will disagree with me, but i know from experience that when our bodies and minds are dull….our production is usually lacking, or dull.

This is a simple concept, and very powerful for me personally.   If I am to be a responsible messenger, I need to be sure my delivery of the message is well thought out, well planned, worked on, disciplined, and I will need the stamina that is required to continue on without faltering, so I can be highly productive, alert and protect myself from burnout.  So, that is my motivation to take the best care of my mind and body that is possible.  Working out, counting calories, and being active, using my body and my mind daily, facing challenges with a zeal that comes from knowing this will help make me the winner I want to be!

The Abundant Life?  You really want it?  Begin now to prepare your body and your mind to receive it, so that you can fullfill your passion and give the best you possibly can.   The spiritual side of the abundant life?  Well, that is another article to be written!

 

Negative? Positive!

I have always been a very positive person, looking for the good in everything I possibly can. I used to tell my children “look for the good and you will find it. Look for the bad and you will find it.” It really is our choice as to how we look at life.
As we get older life does seem to get more difficult at times. It is very easy to get down and look at how bad things are. But the more we have that attitude the more down we get and the more difficult things look.

When I catch myself being down like that I remind myself that there is always good and I search for that good. When I had cancer in 1999 I struggled with being sad for months but then I realized how fortunate I really was! Yes, I had cancer. Yes, I had surgery. Yes, I had radiation BUT but the positive was-they caught my cancer early, my surgery was a lumpectomy and radiation could have been worse! So many people had it so much worse. Cancer also taught me patience, how to sympathize with others, and taught me compassion. Things I truly needed to learn.

Look for the good all around you!

Look for the good all around you!


When you are struggling with something difficult I encourage you to look for things that are good. I have even drawn a line down the center of a piece of paper and put pros on one side and cons on the other and have always been surprised at how many pros there were and how few cons there were.

Truly looking for the good in life is an exercise that we all should practice. It will be an example to others as well as encourage your own self as you grow through difficulties.

Sadly, Many negative people don’t even realize they’re being negative. These are the people that always talk about how sick they are, or post on Facebook that their car broke down, or they’re throwing up, or their dog got hit, ….. Yes those things are happening, but they happen to all of us! We just don’t dwell on it. If you are wondering if you’re a negative person, a tip might be when you begin to notice that people don’t want to be around you.
People run from negative people yet are drawn to positive people.

What type of person are you! You really can do something about your attitude; take a good look and see if you are looking for the good in your life.

Common Excuses-Smart Answers

In the MAX gym in Vero Beach with husband/trainer Tom Talley

In the MAX gym in Vero Beach with husband/trainer Tom Talley

Have you ever just felt completely alone, and you feel people judge you because of what you look like and overall you just feel that you have no hope? That is an awful place to be but I have walked in those shoes! That is what it feels like to be 100 pounds overweight. It is a hopeless feeling but there is good news!!! You can do something about it!
Rather than worry about what everyone thinks, spend more time focusing on what you can do about this issue. It is hard to believe, but there is more energy spent on focusing on the negative than focusing on the positive.
I remember struggling for months over my feelings that it was not fair that I had to watch my weight, and others did not. What I failed to see was that other people had their own issues also, but they didn’t wear theirs! If being fat is really my only difficult situation in my life, then I count that as a blessing!
First, you are not alone and you don’t have to go through this by your self. Many of us have struggled with the exact same thing and have been successful!
One of the biggest excuses that I hear is “I can’t afford a gym membership”.
Let me tell you, I took off my first 50 pounds by merely walking 1 mile in the morning and 1 mile at night. I did not have a gym membership, I was not close to a gym, and I had a very time-consuming job. What I did do, is to commit to doing something! Something was much better than nothing.
Secondly, another common excuse is “I can’t afford healthy food”. You are correct in thinking that healthy food is more expensive than junk food, but you can buy healthy food and eat less of it, and it comes out to be about the same cost. A good tip also is to eat more protein than carbs and fat. It is really that simple. Protein is what sticks with you, carbs and fat only assist the protein to stick with you.
Thirdly, realize that people will look at you and they will make a judgment based on what they see…that is life. We just have to get over that and I know it is not easy. But honestly I cannot encourage you strongly enough that if you will focus more on what you’re doing right and less on what people think that will be a huge step toward your success.
So, start moving your body …. whether it is at home or to a TV exercise program or walking; start shopping more wisely, and quit focusing on what people think about you.
The money you will save in healthcare expenses alone by being more healthy, by buying groceries that are more healthy and by having a great attitude, will shock you! Plus the added benefit of feeling fantastic, looking better, and feeling great about life… Will be a complete restoration from the inside out.
There is hope. Don’t ever give up. You can and will do this!

Set Yourself Up!

Julianne on the 'merry-go-round' of being heavy

Julianne on the ‘merry-go-round’ of being heavy

Ladies….we have two choices:   We can set ourselves up to fail, or we can set ourselves up to SUCCEED!

I choose to do the later; what about you?  Do you even know what you are doing that sets yourself up?

As I was living through my own process of taking the weight off and trying to get into better shape, I realized after the journey, that I had actually set myself up in the past, to fail.   I dieted strenuously; with no consideration of what my body needed to have the energy to succeed.  I didn’t need to be a nutritionist, but I needed to know the basics to succeed.  I also drank way to much diet soda….almost addicted to it.  I also have used sugar substitutes for 40 years!  I now believe that sets up our taste buds to ‘want more’.  I kept unhealthy snacks in the house.  I ate until I wanted to burst…heck, I could out eat my own husband.  I took on exercises programs that were extreme, and I couldn’t last.  I looked for others approval….and that wasn’t going to last either!

As I look back on what made me successful, I realize several things.

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My very first thing I did right, was to make a ‘decision’ to do it right…and stay with it.  No more strenuous diets….straight forward counting calories WITH consideration as to what makes up those calories.  Keeping it at about 30% fat, 30% carbs, and 30% protein.   I actually leaned heavily on the proteins side and less on the carbs. One of my guidelines:  no carbs (0r very very few) after 4pm for me.  I also realized some fat is necessary and is the ‘glue’ to help the other nutrients stick to my digestive system and helped me process foods better.  I realize this is laymans terms…but it is what I understand and what works for me.  Yep, and I cut out the diet sodas…all together; 2 years ago. What a difference that made!  No more late night trips to the bathroom for sure!  I don’t crave sweets like I used to either!   Oh yeah and I started limiting the snacks I keep in the house.  I learned and appreciated the taste of food…(like chocolate)….not to gorge on food!  And I discovered the exercises that I enjoy, and the ones that I don’t….and I gave myself permission to do what I like to do.  And lastly, I decided to do this for me, not for others approval.  Because I want to do this….live this way….the rest of my life!  I don’t want to burn out!  I don’t want to obsess over it…I want to actually enjoy this life journey; to feel good, to have energy, to be highly productive and to stand in confidence!

When I first started working from home, my office desk was actually 5 feet from the refrigerator!   I worked right there in my kitchen for 4 years….and I still managed to have success!   See, it is putting things in place to help us succeed!  AND, discipling ourselves in the journey. I so had to discipline myself…set up parameters….and make decisions that set me up FOR SUCCESS!

This journey is yours….all yours.   Set Yourself Up to be successful and enjoy the entire process!  Set Yourself Up to Succeed!

Ladies: It’s Time To Live Life Well!

There was that one day that I took a really hard, long look in the mirror and decided that I had to change things.

1988

1988

I didn’t like the way I looked.  I didn’t like the way I acted.  I didn’t like that I had lost my quick wit, my sharpness; I simply just felt dull.
At that time I didn’t realize it was my body’s reaction to ‘carb overload’; being lethargic and actually being in denial.  As I realized that I had to do something drastic to get my old self back….something I had never done before.  It wasn’t going to take a diet, or a program, or a class, or a diet pill….it was going to take renewal, discipline, creativity, and a willingness to never get like this again.  Big changes were ahead.

I remember journaling and now as I go back and read the notes I had written, I have to smile.  For in the depth of despair, fear and uncertainty, I found peace in knowing I had a lot of control over this issue.  God was allowing me to see that.  I was assured that He had given me all the tools I needed to live life well.   All I had to do was just ‘do it’……with ‘no excuse’.

Experiencing cancer in 1999 was trying enough; but fighting obesity all my life was the scare that I needed to change.  Obesity was something that wasn’t necessary and was hindering me from reaching excellence.   My excess weight got in the way of my relationships, my career, my health and my service to God.  If you’d asked me before this ‘awakening’; I would have told you that God loves heavy people and that I was doing ‘just fine’ thankyouverymuch!  That was a lie to myself. Well yes, God does love me fat or skinny…but the lie?  I wasn’t ‘just fine’!

mom copyThe journey is a long story in itself, but the outcome from the goals I set, the promises I made and the truths I lived….well that is the proof that yes, we can re-invent ourselves, we can be successful in changing our lives and we can be fulfilled in a way that is beyond our comprehension when our weight is not in our way.

I learned that people don’t look at you when you are fat.  Not really.  We are not heard as well, and many times we are not respected or valued as highly as we could be.  This is wrong and it shouldn’t be like this….but unfortunately it is pretty much the norm.

Ladies….it isn’t about how you look as much as how you feel, how you perform, how you think about yourself, how you stand tall, how you serve others, how you excel, how you wear your clothes, what you spend, where you eat, how you think, what you believe and where you are going.  If you will make the decision today to do something about what you can, and let go of what you can’t change….you will be on the road to success.

I encourage you to find your future with exercise and diet that you CAN LIVE WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!

In the MAX gym in Vero Beach with husband/trainer Tom Talley

In the MAX gym in Vero Beach with husband/trainer Tom Talley

If you don’t enjoy it, you won’t do it.  Be creative.  Be definitive.  Be strong.  Remember you did not arrive at your current weight overnight, so this won’t be a quick process.  But it will be a fantastic process….you will get your mind back; it will be clearer, you will get your wit back, life will be more fun.  You will get your body back, clothes will fit better.  You will get your hair back, your complexion back, even your face will look different.  I’m not kidding.  God made our bodies to work perfectly, yet we have abused our bodies for years and whine that they don’t work well, they are falling apart, and breaking down.  Well if we would care for our bodies, put the right things in to fuel ourselves, and not abuse our bodies….we’d have a much better chance at living longer, healthier, happier and we’ll get a lot more respect on the way.

So remember: you DO have control.  You can change things.  No excuse.  None.